One of the ways we get pulled into trusting them, is that we (especially women) like that self-image of "the sweet, trusting girl".
It's not just that the world likes women better who are never angry.... are 'sweet little girls'.
It's that we've internalized it------- and it's so deep in our psyches, that 'femininity' is tied up with an almost-naive kind of trusting of others.
Back in the '60's, when I was a young woman, the image we often tried to give forth about how we were---- was a long-haired, long-skirted, bread-making, always-smiling, soft-talking, "wow" saying, woman------ who looked up to her garrison-belted, bearded, van-driving guy.
Earth mother, trust-everyone, chew your food 35 times per macrobiotic bite Child of the Sixties.
I suspect that the 'gentle trusting of everyone woman" persona is deeply imbedded in most women's idea of how we want to be perceived.
I think we often find it difficult to 'marry' this persona ----with having to have a chronic distrust of a partner who is not trustable.
Hard for women to 'put this all together' in one woman-person.
So-------to stop 'fighting upstream'------ to feel more like we've been trained to feel and to get the feedback from others that we are, indeed, nice people, not 'shrews' ----- we tell ourselves, that 'all-trusting-ness' is a virtue.
That it makes us Good Women.
And that it makes us desirable.
When it's really an issue of minimizing and denial.