a.) The Federal agencies say that there is an alcohol problem in a male if he has more than 2 drinks a day...and in a female, it's if she has more than 1 drink a day... and that it cannot be "saved up" to have 4 or 7 or 14 on a weekend night.
b.) There are other ways to determine if there is alcoholism -----
1. is alcohol IMPORTANT to the person? Do they spend time thinking about or planning the next time they can drink? Do they choose a restaurant over another one, because one serves alcohol? Do they look at drinks on the next table at a restaurant, with longing, before their own drink is served? Do they longingly think about 'beer and crabs' next July-------when it is December outside?
2.) When I was a director of a treatment center, the owner was a very wise person....... he said (and I never found a problem with this definition) that there were 2 'red flag' questions ----- that if a person answered 'yes' to either of them------- there was almost always alcoholism.
The 2 questions --------
***** Does your family ever complain about your drinking?
Why is this first question important? Because social drinkers don't drink enough for ANYONE to even THINK about complaining about their drinking.
***** Have you ever 'switched' (to control your drinking)? (example ------Try to not drink "scotch' and 'go back to beer' because of what "scotch does to your mind").
Why is this second question important? Social drinkers -----i.e., non-alcoholic drinkers ------- do not drink enough to even need to consider 'switching' or doing ANYTHING to control their intake of alcohol. (Alcoholics try to control it because either they get scared of their own getting-worse disease or "to show' the family that "they don't really have a problem").
HOW CAN YOU TELL THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN AN ALCOHOLIC AND A PURELY SOCIAL DRINKER?
Ask any guy in A.A.---------- He often will say, "you oughta see my wife. Now SHE doesn't have a problem. She goes to a party with me. She picks up a drink. She SIPS some of it. She gets involved in a conversation. She puts the drink down. She FORGETS SHE HAD IT. She doesn't think about it. It has NO IMPORTANCE to her.
c.) Those of us who grew up with alcoholism in the family-------and then married an alcoholic------ get so USED TO their alcoholic drinking----- that we tend to get bamboozled when they are in denial....when they tell us we are crazy when we think they are alcoholic.
b.) There are other ways to determine if there is alcoholism -----
1. is alcohol IMPORTANT to the person? Do they spend time thinking about or planning the next time they can drink? Do they choose a restaurant over another one, because one serves alcohol? Do they look at drinks on the next table at a restaurant, with longing, before their own drink is served? Do they longingly think about 'beer and crabs' next July-------when it is December outside?
2.) When I was a director of a treatment center, the owner was a very wise person....... he said (and I never found a problem with this definition) that there were 2 'red flag' questions ----- that if a person answered 'yes' to either of them------- there was almost always alcoholism.
The 2 questions --------
***** Does your family ever complain about your drinking?
Why is this first question important? Because social drinkers don't drink enough for ANYONE to even THINK about complaining about their drinking.
***** Have you ever 'switched' (to control your drinking)? (example ------Try to not drink "scotch' and 'go back to beer' because of what "scotch does to your mind").
Why is this second question important? Social drinkers -----i.e., non-alcoholic drinkers ------- do not drink enough to even need to consider 'switching' or doing ANYTHING to control their intake of alcohol. (Alcoholics try to control it because either they get scared of their own getting-worse disease or "to show' the family that "they don't really have a problem").
HOW CAN YOU TELL THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN AN ALCOHOLIC AND A PURELY SOCIAL DRINKER?
Ask any guy in A.A.---------- He often will say, "you oughta see my wife. Now SHE doesn't have a problem. She goes to a party with me. She picks up a drink. She SIPS some of it. She gets involved in a conversation. She puts the drink down. She FORGETS SHE HAD IT. She doesn't think about it. It has NO IMPORTANCE to her.
c.) Those of us who grew up with alcoholism in the family-------and then married an alcoholic------ get so USED TO their alcoholic drinking----- that we tend to get bamboozled when they are in denial....when they tell us we are crazy when we think they are alcoholic.
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