"what's WRONG with me-----that I didn't see it before?!

a. spending time, beating oneself up, for not 'seeing what he's really doing' ----- is USELESS, WASTED TIME

b. We didn't 'see it' because WE'VE BEEN TRAINED to deny. We've been put in a NO-WIN.

If we saw it and named it------we were told we are crazy.
If we didn't see it------we are told we are sticking our heads in the sand.

IT'S A NO-WIN that most of us have been subjected to since birth-------for, most people who get involved with alcoholics, are born into families where a parent is either alcoholic/addicted or an abuser.

IT'S ALL WE HAVE KNOWN.

IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT.

c. Knowing that ------- leads to the next step-------

What IS effective?

Start to REALLY believe that you have been trained to MINIMIZE what is really going on. THEN-------- do your best to not minimize. Stay in family recovery.

d. What is "recovery for the family"------how does it work?

A combination of being VERY self-honest about the situation ---- PLUS staying in recovery ------ THAT combination will ease you along------ like being on a treadmill------- to healing.

"Keep coming back to recovery------and staying honest------ and you'll get better, despite yourself".

From Toby Drews, the author of the million-selling "Getting Them Sober'' books, endorsed by 'dear Abby', Dr. Norman Vincent Peale, and Melody Beattie:
phone 410-243-8352
email tdrews3879@aol.com
www.GettingThemSober.com





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